He gifted Us A Surprise On His 14th Month Birthday.

Something Unexpected happened on the 24th of August 2018 at 9:30pm.

        As usual of my routine since last 4 months, I was returning home from my clinic at 9:20 pm.
As tomorrow being weekend I had planned to make Sponge dosa for Kartavya as he loves it, so rather than coming directly home, I took a halt in-between to buy grocery with a preoccupied state for one of my patients.
Doctors are always occupied with some or the other thought, so in order to ease it a bit, I talk to myself throughout riding my way till home & today even I was continuously talking to myself regarding how to plan my patient's treatment & make counseling & consultation more interesting.

       Suddenly I heard a loud scream, my thought process took a pause, to which I realized that I have already reached my society parking,
It was Kartavya's voice. He plays like there is no tomorrow, he is always loud, he always makes his presence felt. I asked my watchman about him, that whether he is downstairs with his Papa or playing upstairs?
Question would arise, that how could any watchmen recollect such a small baby in society of 6 wings and 780 flats, but you know what Mr. Kartavya is very famous, All the watchmen in our society know him, because of his daily habit of waving goodbye & giving see you flying kissy to all the people whom he came across while his morning & evening tricycle ride.
      Kartavya( Kittu), Yes Kittu is the name by which all society members, kids, watchmen & maids know him. He is just 14  months old and is known by all. 
Believe me or not but our society ladies know me by his name i.e Kartavya's mummy.
He has already attended 4 birthday parties, having numerical friends, Didi's, Big Bro.

Today even he was busy playing with one of his Didi on our floor when I heard his playful scream.
I rushed to the elevator & as the elevator's door opened, I saw him playing at the right end corner of the corridor, he was on his 4 wheeled scooter; As soon as I shouted his name, within no time he rode his scooter towards me and hugged me.
But this time, the hug lasted for just a microsecond, then he was on a forward mode, he started riding his scooter ahead.

                                                        Why, Why, Why?

Why he didn't cling me, or didnt cried for not being attended, didn't ask for feed?
I looked towards my hubby with a question in my eyes.
All of sudden, he took few scooter push towards our flat & looked back to see wheteher we are following him or not.
I understood his signal & we followed him, He reached to our flat and started banging on our door;
Understanding his haste, in no time Chintan opened the door.
He took his scooter in, rode it till our couch, got down the scooter & started climbing on it.
I & Chintan were continuously observing his act.
As he succeded in getting on it, he settled himself & then started calling me towards him "mummma...., mummmma...., mummmmma".

Yes, finally he has started saying this word, his first Mum- mum-mum was on 11th of July 2018.

 Trust me he says it so sweetly that I mimic him many a time.

So following his orders, I went towards him, he pulled me towards so as to make me sit on the couch, he then started clinging me & asking for feed by pulling over my tunic. I responded the way he wanted & offered him his feed.

I know the query in your mind, 
"Why he did not cling to me as soon he saw me in corridor & why now"?

This is the unexpected thing I witnessed today.

Though being so small, he understood my daily routine, my pattern, that after coming from the clinic,
Mumma freshens up, change her clothes then sit on the couch, relax & then take me in her arms to feed; 
So instead of wasting time in the corridor, he himself took the charge, asked us to follow him till home, indicated us to open the door, got on the couch, settled himself, gave me time to change my clothes & then cling to me for feed.

I & Chintan were so amazed by his act that we even noted down the date & time.

Come-on Kartavya You are just 14 months, how can you be so smart & understanding.

This small event thought me a big lesson;

"He is too small to understand" this is the stanza we usually use for kids, but my dear parents, please dont under-estimate your kids, there is a junior scientist in every baby, its us who have to  nurture their brain with gesture of "Yes" & reducing the number of "NO" in their life.
It's us who are hampering their growth by disturbing their innovative thoughts,

• let them play in mud & let them be dirty, As you can make them bath twice a day to remove the dirt, but stopping them from feeling our mother earth would make them less immune.

• let them break things & witness their attempt of joining it back with their inventive trials.

• let them fall, let them understand the meaning of pain & injury so that they know the process of prevention & be ready to face the worldly challenges from very begining.

Parents relish their childhood in their children, but Kartavya is making me mature day by day.
Each day I rise up with a new lesson to learn.

• Be Childish, as kids enjoy the most.

• Laugh out hard at silly matters, as laughter is the best medicine.

• No pain no gain,

• Make mistakes to learn from them.

• Each day is a surprise & live as if there is no tomorrow

                                 & 

• Fall so as to rise, walk and eventually run. 

Its said "Each day brings a new surprise for You"
So are you Kartavya,
You never fail to surprise us with your actions on  daily basis, 
Every day you have something new to make us fall for you even more.

But Mr. Kittu "This act was totally out of the World"

                                   Love you.

Breastfeeding gives you superhuman powers.

Being a doctor I very well knew the importance of breastfeeding.

Reading articles & joining the breastfeeding group on social media added confidence to move ahead.

      Kartavya's birth-weight was 3.8 kg so his needs were also high,  first 24 hrs being Sected it was difficult to move still I took help from nursing staff & tried to make him suckle, but his needs were not fulfilled so was advised to top feed for first 24 hrs 

Next day with much difficulty I feed him in a lying position by supporting his head with my arms &
By 3rd day we both mastered the skill via which he could also feel sated & I too was able to take rest.

Everyone in the hospital, as well as my relatives, were continuously advising me to feed him in sitting position as milk may enter in the trachea but it was practically impossible to sit for such long period.
So following my Gynecologist advise I continued to rest my body & feed Kartavya every 2hrly in lying position.

New Mommies its good to feed your baby in sitting position, which prevents the complication of aspiration of milk in newly born babies, as nor your baby nor You are familier with the procedure. 

So Dear Mommies, Please take advise of your gynecologist regarding breastfeeding, practice the skill of holding the baby & check the correct position of feeding so that your Operated body too can take rest.

The 2-hourly rule, a must follow the rule for all new mommies, 

My Paediatrician advised me to feed Kartavya every 2 hourly & never before that. 

So following her advice, I use to keep a stopwatch in my room & even though Kartavya gets cranky before 2 hrs I try to make him involved in play or talks. 

At night even I used to follow this rule & dream feed practice was also with 2 hourly intervals.
This helped me a lot in maintaining his feeding & sleeping schedule.
First 2 months followed this 2-hour rule than ultimately this frequency decreased to 3-4 hrs. From his     2 & 1/2 months, I use to leave him with my mom for 3-4 hrs to get myself more productive.

I was proved to be a bad mommy, but that was acceptable for Kartavya’s health.

At morning as soon as he used to wake up 1st thing to be done was feeding him followed by his potty, making his digestion so smooth that his potty timings were also maintained keeping him away from any gastric discomfort.

Had decided to go ahead with exclusive breastfeeding till his 6 months of age, so even after many interferences of relatives, Kartavya was getting only and only my milk as his food till his ½ birthday.

I was always meals on heels breastfeeding mom,     

Whether it be mall, theatre, Car or Restaurants I feel no shame in feeding my baby, that’s the reason why

Kartavya travels 5 hrs every 15-20 days to our hometown without getting on my nerves ;

He has already seen 5 movies before turning 1 ;

Had started visiting Restaurants from 1& 1/2 month of his age.

Most important, Breastfeeding was never a task for me, I scheduled it & it turned effectual.

So New Mommies, Keep Calm & Nurse On.

Mistakes by Doctor Mommy to Learn From.

No one is born perfect, Nor are doctors, Nor am I an exception.

Being mommy is an inexpressible joy but dear mommies we need to be joyous 

within limit.

First 48 hrs post Cesarean section, I had to take care of myself as there were numbers of people taking care of my champ,

• I was given head low position i.e Head end of cot bit lower than leg end so as to avoid suffering from Spinal Anesthesia for 1st 24 hrs.

• Was on IV fluids & IV antibiotics for 48 hrs.

• Was advised plenty of liquids from 2nd day of surgery.

• Complete rest.

Being a doctor I knew about it, but being a new mommy I couldn't recollect it because of being over joyous & made the same mistake which all do.

• I got up from this position to pamper my baby & talk to relatives.

• At night time, I found my veinflon out so asked nurse to remove it,as ultimately I was going to be shifted on tablets from next morning.

• Couldn't take much liquid even.

So many mistakes because of being over joyous, for which I had to pay a heavy price.

         3rd day when I was going to get discharged,I had developed Spinal headache. Headache even on raising or moving my head, standing was just impossible. Nor was I able to feed my baby, nor was I able to hold him.

            My Gynecologist entered with a big smile on his face to permit my departure but his smile turned into a good scold when I told him about my headache with tearful eyes.
His words were less of anger & more of care & concern so I being a good student than pulled up my sleeve to follow his instructions.

• Got myself prick again to start my injectable fluids,

•  Again my head low & leg up

• No movements just rest on bed

• No visitors allowed, Just the newly formed Trio of Bittu, Chin2  &  Kittu. (Binny,Chintan & Kartavya)

As a result of my sincere efforts I was completely fine within few hours & by evening was permitted for discharge.

I had entered hospital premises in a fancy look so how could I leave it in boring attire, 

So I wore a beautiful floral gown, with black mascara & rose lips celebrating my new designation of Mommy.

Every problem can be solved, but Avoiding to raise one by proper precaution, is rather a good option.

These are the mistakes made my doctor mommy,hope it would be a lesson for the new ones.

Giving birth is the biggest achievement which require adequate care & rest to enjoy every bit of it.

                                                                                  Enjoy your motherhood.

Mr Chintan D Patel: My Very-Soft-ware Engineer & Kartavya's Super Dad.

How can someone be so perfect?

Mr. Chintan Patel = Sanskaari beta, Mamma's boy, Perfect husband & Super dad.

I never imagined that someone all over from Satyug ( सत्य युग) would take birth for me, You are that kind of Man, Mr. Chintan.

Here is the most important tip for unmarried girls: Always marry a Mamma’s boy because :     

"The One who is raised by the Queen, knows very well how to take care of a Princess"

Both of us are poles apart.
He is threshold of patience & Me being the volcano of emotions.

He is the mirror image of what I expected in a husband,
He is like my dad & I want Kartavya even to be like him.
What else does a girl need!

Even when I took a decision of resuming career by starting my Clinic, when Kartavya was just 11 months; without a second thought he agreed.
So during evening hours, He is the one grooming Kartavya when mumma is building her future.

Believe me or not, now Kartavya is more fond of him rather than me, it makes me feel bit jealous.

Come-on, 

I have given you birth & carried you in my womb for 9 months
And You not only came out looking like him, Sharing the same blood group i.e O-ve, Using your left hand more than rightAnd the extreme was, when the first word spoken by you being PAPA, 

How can I not be insecure?

But looking at their innocent tease, laugh & surprising deeds daily, makes me fall for you more Mr Chintan.

• He was my partner in doing crazy things when Kartavya was in my womb, 
• He even used to read articles about parenting, 
• Wave good bye to baby when going to office, say hi on returning, 
• Used to chant shlokas at night & daily talk to our baby so as to check baby's reaction to his voice.
• From womb itself, Kartavya was very much reactive to Chintan’s voice, that’s the reason why after birth when Kartavya was placed in Chintan’s arm, his cry ceased.

                                 They truely form Father-Son Duo.

I was not able to see Chintan’s first reaction on seeing Kartavya, but I visualized the whole sequence, when my mummy told me that Chintan's eyes were in tears on holding Kartavya in his arms & to hide those happy tears he could do nothing better than hugging his mother.
Good that I was not there to witness that scene, orelse I would had surely cried.

I had witnessed his love for Kartavya on the day of Kartavya’s First vaccination.
Me being medico very well knew about the vaccination process so was prepared for it, 

but Mr. Software engineer was shocked when he saw the size of syringe;

While I was talking to pediatrician about the feeding habits of Kartavya, 

he was busy in measuring the length-breath-width of needle which was going to penetrate Kartavya’s thigh.

And the procedure begin, 

Me: Calm

Kartavya: shrill cry for a micro-sec & resumed his play.

Chintan: Clenched his fist tight, bite his knuckles & screamed loudly.

• How could the pediatrician penetrate that needle so deep? 
• Why was injection not given on butt?
• Next time don’t bring me along. These were the stanza of Mr Very Soft-ware engineer.

Till date i tease him for this incident, but i feel myself lucky to have you in my life Mr. Chintan Patel.

Thank you My Mr. Perfect & Kartavya’s Super Dad for Everything.

A Doctor turned into a Mommy

24th June 2017 at 11:05 am

         I never wanted my pregnancy to be boring & nor my delivery.
It was 7 in morning, Me and My Papa just like my routine since last 15 days, climbed 5  floor to reach terrace of my building. 
Walk was just an excuse, Me and My champ inside, loved the chirping birds & sprinkling loaded clouds,
but this time nature had some different plans. 
Almost 10 days prior my expected date,while climbing 4th floor stairs my water bag started leaking; 
Rather than panic, I was happy, as in the coming hours my life would be completely changed & I would be holding my angel in my arms.
I didn't told anything to my papa, but started walking vigorously almost for an hour until rain forced us to go back home, where till 9:30 I continued my walk.
Didn't wanted to go to hospital and wait hours for pains and get exhausted.

But as I told, nothing goes as per plan.

My water bag burst & had to get myself checked.
I didn't wanted to welcome my baby with exhausted and tired face, so had a king-size breakfast so as to gather energy to bear my labor pains, colored my lips pink, put on my new pajamas & bordered my eyes black.
Asked my hubby even to get a haircut and get newly dressed. 
My baby should also know, how fashionable his parents are.

Reached hospital with a news of 2 Cesarean section already ON,full staff busy & me with blushing face walking in corridor out of OT.
Doctor in me shouted, Binny yesterday's scan reported your baby to be 3.6 kg approx with cord around neck, there are chances of meconium stained liquor,
Go Binny go ,check urself.
And Yaaaaaaa here it is, flakes in liquor, rushed to the nurse in NICU , asked her to get Doppler & checked my baby's heartbeat which was completely normal,
But no pain, no show & no other signs.
Didn't wanted to compromise my baby's health, decided to get me sected....,oops I mean Cesarean section.
Signed my concent in labour room,
Convinced my parents and hubby, 
Asked surgeon to go ahead with the surgery.
It was raining heavily outside & thousands of emotions were showering inside me.
I was prepared, got into OT, gave position for Spinal & in no time could feel that tear of my abdomen & a loud cry. 

Surgeon: Binny your boy's cry is going to quake my hospital.What..... A boy. A boy. 

Really ,"11:05 am  An angel was a boy"Pediatrician told 3.8 kg,

Me : Is it my baby's weight, Really;

He has broken our family record of 3.75 kg.

Got my self stitched & was shifted to ICU.

On the way all my relatives were worried about my post surgery health & I was waving to them like an airport wave with a big smile.

NICU was near ICU, I could hear that same loud cry, my baby's loud cry.

My MIL brought him to me,took him in my arms & to my amaze I didn't cried out of joy.

May be my lacrymose eyes energized my lips to extend into a smile welcoming my baby.MY KARTAVYA.

Positive mind + Positive vibes for Two Positive lines.

I always wanted my baby to learn multiple languages, especially

• His mother tongue: Gujarati,
• Our national language: Hindi,
• Commercial language : English
• Punekar language: Marathi & if he develops interest than can go ahead with Spanish & French etc.

One fine day while reading an article, I came across a stanza quoting:

"Sanskrit is the mother of all languages & if You know Sanskrit, learning other languages becomes easy"

So decided to make my baby learn it from the womb itself.

But for Me, Sanskrit was a nightmare, In 10th I didn't opted for Sanskrit though it being a scoring subject;but being mommy was also not a task at ease; 

So for you, Mr Kartavya your mommy started reading holly books,

1. Bhagwad Gita, 
2. Vyas Vichar ,
3. Garbh-sanhita.

• Bhagwad Gita needs no introduction but It's immensity was very difficult to be fulfilled so along with reading, I started hearing its 18 Adhyay in form of Sanskrit chants via ganna app at times of my evening walk.

• Vyas Vichar portray us an art of living.

• Garbh- Sanhita has 4 volumes ,each volume is divided as per it's content.It covers scientific & holistic understanding of marriage, intercourse,9 months of pregnancy, breastfeeding,post pregnancy & upbringing of baby including understanding of all the rituals done during marriage and pregnancy.

So while performing My Garbhsanskar ritual I knew how important it was for my fetal well-being.

All rituals have significance, it's us who need to unwrap the meaning behind them.
Here I got a shortcut as my family being A Swadhyay Parivar.

• Daily practice of family prayers at morning & evening, 
• Chanting shloka soon after waking up.
• Shlokas as our feet touches the floor.
• Shlokas while bathing. 
• Shlokas before we start our meal 
• Shlokas before starting our journey 
• Shlokas  before  we go to sleep. 

All these shlokas being in Sanskrit helped me a lot.
Even lullabies for Kartavya were these shlokas and Adhyay of Bhagwad Gita.
They not only helped me to keep him calm but they even increased my patience level.
There were no blind chanting of these shlokas but I make sure that while making him sleep I even narrate their meaning to him.
From day 1 till now when he is 13months 3 weeks old I continued this practice & it turned fruitful,
As He is too co-operative, Innovative, Good observant, Patient & Great night sleeper. 
Till date I have never compromised my sleep both noon & night because of him. 
He is early to rise, early to bed child. 
Many a times he wakes me up tapping on my cheeks or playing with my nose & We both welcome our new day with a big smile and mischief with Chin2.

Early morning Bittu👸 & Kittu👶 pair up to harass Chin2.🤴.

THE SECRET.

The Secret of Healthy Pregnancy is nothing but Positive thinking 

In today's busy world it is very difficult to stay away from stress.
Just like new mommies I too used to face many tensity on small matters ,those overreactions about fetalwelbeing & especially those non welcoming impractical advises used to tighten me up.

My husband has very good collection of inspirational reading material. One fine day I was just cleaning his book rack where I found The Secret;

I mean the book "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne, 

I found the book title very arresting. Started reading it & found the content so helpful & positive that I started inculcating it in my living.

Some key quotes of the book are:

*The Great Secret of Life is the Law of attraction.

*If you see it in your mind, you're going to hold it in your hand.

*Thoughts become things.

*See yourself living in abundance and you will attract it etc, etc, etc.

Every time I read it, I find something new.

All throughout my pregnancy, delivery, post pregnancy & till now when Kartavya is turning 1 yr , I have followed it.

I have found the Secret, hope you all also find your secret to happy living.

First Glance of Kartavya.

It is so Wonderful & Sexy to see your Hubby becoming a Father.

              
Unlike me, this was a totally new experience for Chintan;

Being a doctor, Pregnancy test positive reactions were been experienced by me on daily basis,

* Dewdrops from Fathers eyes on the 1st glance of their baby & 

* Fear of holding them for the first time was not new for me.

So was having some idea about Chintan's reaction for the same, but This Man never misses a chance to surprise me.

26th October morning 4 am, 

Both of us were planning to go to our hometown for Diwali celebration;

Everything was set including my pregnancy test in the morning.
My eyelids were more accurate than the clock that night, before a big hand of the clock could touch 12, they uncovered my eyeballs at 3:55 am.
Being a doctor made no difference in this mixture of emotions, as going to become a mother overpower the doc inside me.
Went ahead with my test & kept it away from my glance, just to see what I actually desire for.
It was just like flipping a coin, u actually know what u want when the coin is in the air.
Mommy inside me knew that it was positive, but doctor inside me required a confirmation.
And here it was, 

And here it was,  

2 red lines: 1st glance of Kartavya.

Was so so so happy, that I started dancing, but Why to celebrate alone.
Chintan had already aroused, 
I whispered in his ears about his promotion of becoming a Papa;
He was just speechless, he took me in his arms so tightly that his warmth was no far away from reaching the miracle developing inside my womb & was even capable enough to dry up my lips, 
He has always been a rescuer, but this time even after helping me with my dry lips he ceased me to utter even a word.

Maybe this situation demanded mingling of us, rather than the mingling of alphabets to express our joy.